A Complex Family Situation: Divorce, Estrangement, and a Wedding Who Is At Fault?
The issues in marriage is a complex one ,there’s no marriage without it’s complex side effects, while very few are seemingly made in heaven but underneath are hidden troubles , pains and agony . There’s no perfect marriage anywhere in the world. Marriage should be managed. We shouldn’t be advocate of marriage divorce except it becomes toxic.
Though in marriages, if the woman endures it, the chances of being the most beneficial is heightened
Marriages are like package if unopened then the mystery remains unknown. In the story beneath we should unravel who deserve the blame and way forward.
The mystery of marriage, rage , betrayal, post divorce is unwritten except revealed.
A couple got divorced after 10 years of marriage. They had 2 daughters aged 9 and 7.
The mum relocated to the US with them and cut them off from their dad. 18 years later, the older daughter wanted to get married.
The mother wanted her brother (the bride’s uncle) to give her away at the wedding Ceremony.
She refused!
“I want MY FATHER to give me away”, she said. The mother laughed!
“That LOSER? Who knows where he is?”
“Actually, he’s in town”, the daughter replied. The mother almost fainted!
Her daughters had been in touch with their dad for 15 years! Their mother had no idea.
The dad had been kept in the know since the daughter met the man 3 years earlier.
The dad knew when he proposed and she said yes. The dad practically picked the wedding day when it would be convenient for him to travel.
The mum felt “betrayed”.
“How could you do this to me? After all I’ve done for you!”, she wailed.
“You have NO RIGHT to invite THAT MAN to your wedding, talk less of INSISTING he walks you down the aisle!”
“Sorry, mum- but THAT MAN is MY FATHER! He may no longer be your husband, that is not MY business!”
The mum had carried beef against her ex-husband for 18 years, using the kids as Pawns. Unknown to her, the Pawns recognised the Authority of the KING (their father) and had reconciled with him 15 years earlier.
The woman was DEVASTATED.
“I won’t come for the wedding then!”
“If you insist THAT MAN walks you down the aisle, I won’t attend! I don’t ever want to see THAT MAN again!”
The daughter said, “Ok, suit yourself!”
Mum started raining CURSES on her!
“Mum, why are you being unnecessarily dramatic about this? It’s MY wedding, not YOURS!”
“So, you decided to take his side! You decided to side THAT MAN against me!”, the mum wailed.
“There are no “sides” here mum! Whatever led to your divorce is NOT my business. I just want to get married and move on with my life! I hope my marriage doesn’t end up like yours!”
Now, what’s YOUR take on this?
Is the woman RIGHT to not want her ex-husband at the wedding?
Is the daughter RIGHT to invite her father behind her mother’s back?
Is the dad RIGHT to come for the wedding?
Are there blames to be shared?
If yes, who would you blame and why?
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